How to control Anger Instantly?

How to control anger instantly? | Anger is kind of negative emotion and it creates in our destructive portion of the brain. Most of our problem born from the anger and as a result we suffer in every aspect of our life, just like as personal life, professional life and social life.

Why people angry so much?

• The main reason of anger is when things or situation not comes in favor of us we become angry
• Then other most important reason is mental pressure, when mental pressure increase our patient level decrease, then we lost our ability to think logically, because our brain do not work properly, it flows with the negative emotion, it trigger our anger violently.
• Most of us think our enemy is spotted outside all the time, but we forget to think about anger, which is our main enemy and situated and hide within us. Before anger controls us, we should control anger.
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Some situations which trigger our anger:-

• When person unable to clarify anything
• When someone insult or hurt our mind.
• When people do not kept their given promise
• When someone do not want to understand our feeling, desire and problem
• When our partner do not work in office as per our direction
• When we are in hurry and not having enough time
• If someone betrayed us or cheated us
• If someone do not behave with us properly
• When situation become obstacle to achieve our aim
• When other person annoyed us
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Effect of Anger within us:

Scientific Change-

• Excessive adrenalin secretion
• Increase blood pressure or hypertension
• Pulse rate become higher
• Blood vessel become stiff
• Excessive acid secretion in our stomach
• Rate of breathing become higher
• Excessive sweating
• Reduce immunity power.
• Increase amount of fat in blood
• Neck and back pain
• May create angina in chest
• Ultimately heart attack

Behavioral Change-

• Create mental stress
• Ear become red
• Tear in eyes
• Screaming
• Nose bleeding
• Unable to speak
• Loudly cry
• Threaten others
• Insulting
• Throw slang language
• Making irrational jokes
• Oddly laughing
• Tendency to breaking any kind of stuff, or hurt himself
• Tear book, paper or home appliance etc
• Slap
• Stop talking for certain period of time
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Result of Anger:

• Lost close friend
• Deprive family relationship, even may divorce
• Loss in business
• Create stressful circumstances
• Poor health and disappointment
• Create number of enemies
• Excessive hatred
• Ultimate court case
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How to Control Anger?

There are three methods I am going to discuss but firstly I would like to discuss instant method.

1. Instant Control:

• When trigger anger, leave the place making any suitable excuse.
• Try to control your mind using simple tricks, just as start counting 10, 9, 8, ---1, 0. Anger will slowly down
• Drink one glass of cold water
• Try to concentrate on your breathing and take deep breath
• Try to walk calmly and count your steps
• Take one mirror and see your angry face then try to calm down and give one smile
• Try to control your loud voice when you feel anger

2. Behavioral Control:

• Every person has different angle of thought process and they have right to express it, and they firmly believe that their thought is right.
• Try to control and reduce mental stress by relaxing your mind.
• Try to avoid such person or situation that makes you angry.
• Try to understand and listened other talks and feelings.
• Try to understand the problem every situation will not come in favor of us all the time.
• Learn to forgive others, because mistakes are common things as a human being.
• Try to understand logically, it might happen we need to change ourselves.
• If we do mistake then don’t forget to ask for forgiveness.

3. Long term healing:

• Do meditation everyday at least 15 minute
• Do pranayam and deep breathing exercise
• Read spiritual books
• Try to introspect on your behavior and attitude
• Try to accept the people or situation ‘the way they are’
• Don’t blame others. Take responsibility
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What we should do if someone angry before us?

• Listen to him carefully, as like, you are understand and supporting him from your mind and heart.
• Don’t angry just keep patient.
• Angry person is more like a child; he needs love and attention just as mother does her child.
• We need to realize, angry person lost all their rational thought, they could not differentiate between right and wrong, that’s why just listen to him till he become calm down and don’t try to argue with angry person.
• If you can’t control yourself then you can move away by making any excuse, and you just say, want to discuss later.
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Benefits of reduce your anger:

• Good relationship builds up in family, office and society.
• Enemy become good friend
• Less possibility of becoming divorce
• Good physical, mental and spiritual health
• Prosperous mind and happiness

Finally we fully convinced that anger is our negative emotional state, we can overcome it by practicing and changing our negative habits and thought.

Because it is very much essential in a bigger prospect of our healthy life