How to avoid conflict in your family life?

How to avoid conflict in your family life? Here are some simple tips we are going to discuss about it, which will practically help you to avoid many conflicts that can turn into simple by changing your thought and habits.

There are many way conflict arise in our family, conflict with spouse, conflict with child, conflict with parents etc

Some basic cause of conflict:

• Lack of patient

• Habits of excess judgment

• Negative thought

• Negative attitude towards other

• Selfishness

• Habits of anger

• Lost temperament easily

• High Expectation

• Lack of financial resource

• Lack of compromising ability

We have discuss here lot of virtue belongs to us which make us lead unhappy life, but we forget that we have a choice to avoid such conflict by acquiring some good habits which is very important in our life to make happy self and others.

Conflict with spouse:

This is the most common matter of all of our family, but we generally think this may happen if two people live together, it is partially right and partially wrong, because in case of spouse we have to be more practical, both husband and wife has a different mind and soul, they nurture from different culture and different circumstances, so there is no doubt that there thought process will be different. That’s why many conflicts arise from this source, but most of the time we  unable to understand this and blame each other and this blame game become another source to call next conflict.

Apart from that for other many reasons become contributing factor to be conflict-

• We always wants our child will be the way we want them to be, but child play different role, and most of husband and wife blame each other, they forget that nurture of child is not one person responsibility , if we able to assign our responsibility then many conflict can be avoided.
• Another source of conflict is high expectation may be one or another, because both husband and wife are coming from different background, that’s why their expectation and desire are different , but all this desire may fulfill if our financial resource are enough , unless we have to reduce our expectation and desired to the gadget we want.

Conflict with Child:

Child play a great role to generate more conflict in our family, most of the child in their grown up sense they do not listen their parents and it is very much difficult to digest as a parents, but we need to understand and try to find out what is the cause of this that our child not listening to us.

 Here we are discussing some tips to avoid conflicts with them.

• Most of the time child don’t do the things what we instruct them, we want them to listen to us but they deny and conflict begin, but if we deeply think about it that all the time our mind also not listen to us, so how can we expect other mind may be child will listen to our words, we can change this situation by changing our thought process, but it does not mean let our child do whatever they want.

• Child are not conscious about their life, but as a parent we need to take care about it, but we need to find out the right way how we will do it without making any conflict.

• First thing is, we most of us try to put our dream on our child without knowing their dream, otherwise we force them to do what others child are doing good at our point of view, but this trick may not work all the time, understand the child motive first, what they want in their life, make relation with them as a friend as like they can share their life’s view, if as a parent you realized their view or plan are right towards their future life then let them proceed.

Conflict with parent:

As a son or daughter we must respect our parents but some time we unable to do it, if something happen in our life which is not favor of us, we easily blame our parent, criticize our parent and even certain extend hate them.

Parent is the best gift in our life ever god has given us, unfortunately for many miscommunication and misunderstanding between both of them conflict arise, but sometime to become a good parent they provide everything to their child, but this habit may invite conflict later, there is nothing wrong to become a good parent but showing as a good parent could affect your child future.

Let me give you a good example, if as a parent you provide each and every mundane gadget to your child then it can put you more danger, likewise a teenager want motor bike from their parent but we all know how much it risky if it is not necessary, another example is, if a kids get attached with video game then he/she does not want to play outdoor game.

As a parent initially, we allow them, because to get instant relief, like if we don’t provide they may cry and we don’t want it any way, this tendency lead us trouble.

Some time when parent become older, that time we do not provide our little bit of spare time to talk to them what they are seeking for, because we become very busy in our daily life, sometime even we forget about their basic need and it make them worry and give them pain what they do not expect from their child.

Conflict with daughter in-law:

It is well known fact for most of the family conflict between mother in-law and daughter in-law, but we do not try to find the reason why these things happen in our family.

When a girl come to his husband house she left behind many things and try to adapt new culture, new circumstances and new home, so she should have given some time to synthesize with all this mundane things, but we did some mistake without giving time we criticize them for their small mistake, so as a mother in-law we should love them as our daughter, then we can find love otherwise conflict will arise.

So final word ‘avoid conflict in our family’ is not one person responsibility, each and every family member has to take equal and collective responsibility to maintain a healthy, happy and prosperous family life.

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